Thinking and responding to negative emotions

Someone wrote, in a Hacker News discussion, on how he thinks of dark or undesirable emotions. Some things can not be changed easily. That stray thought that makes you feel like a blasphemer, accept it as part of the normal. It does not mean you have to be overly concerned about it, instead, what we should do is think about it, recognise it, just don't assault yourself for these thoughts:

You, the thing listening to this advice, is just a small part of a greater whole, much of which you (the thing listening to this advice) are not consciously aware of. This is because you were built by your genes to be good mainly at one thing: reproducing. That's all your genes care about. They don't care about your happiness or achievements or having a fulfilled life. In fact, they don't even really "care" about reproducing, except the same way that water cares about flowing downhill.

Your negative emotions are real. The pain you feel is real. But it's not you. It's something that is being done to you. In that regard it is exactly the same as physical pain, which is also not part of you, but rather something done to you. The fact that you're depressed is no more a character flaw than the fact that it hurts when you skin your knee. - lisper

It is a beautiful way to look at things when it comes to emotions. An objective assessment of the situation, a contextualisation based on biology, so that you need not feel bad about it all, most of it is beyond your control.

Original post linked to a research news on how accepting negative thoughts without lashing out against yourself makes people better than beating yourself up for your thoughts. Feeling bad about feeling bad can make you feel worse

Safeguards: things to do before buying property

 I did not know about this earlier. It is appears common sense after reading it.

Giving a public notice in the newspaper is a must. It doesn't matter which one. It need not be English. Any state language too will do. And any newspaper with some circulation will do. This Public notice is what protects your interest in the court of law if you face any litigation regarding your purchased property. 

Secondly, a legal search of the property (not to be confused with physical search) has to be conducted by hiring a lawyer following which he gives a title note. If you approach nationalised banks for loan to buy property, their lawyers conduct a search and give title note. But if not, you have to do it yourself. 
Lawyers conduct search by visiting sub registrar's office and checking the record of title documents. 
 
Example - You bought a flat without public notice and legal search, and turns out the owner did not have a clear title. Now you along with the owner are being sued for cancellation of your purchase. [ Tejasvita Apte's in Quora ]

Defenitions: Smart and Stupid

• Wisdom is when someone, given little information, reaches the right conclusion.
• Intelligence is when someone, given lots of information, reaches the right conclusion.
• Ignorance is when someone, given little information, reaches the wrong conclusion.
• Stupidity is when someone, given lots of information, reaches the wrong conclusion.

From Wisdom & Intelligence.

Intelligence can cram lot of data and get the right answer. Wisdom knows which shreds to pick from the zillions out there. Ignorant doesn't have wisdom's selective eye for  choice. Stupid sinks in the sea of information.

While giving feedback avoid the word "but"

While giving feedback, there is an element of improvement most of the time. We all end up using the dreaded "but", after our positive appraisal. I have found this water down the  feeling authenticity of my positive feedback as well as dampens the sense of jubilation the recipient may have for a job well done.

This commenter puts it nicely and says a better way to reword it. A slight language change can have a wonderful effect:

One of the things I learned when giving feedback to somebody (and this was actually during a Toastmasters meeting), is that one should never give positive feedback followed by the word ‘but’. As implied in this article, the word ‘but’ brings on a very negative feeling and the recipient of that feedback may turn off as soon as this word is heard. All of the positive things that were said before the word ‘but’ would be forgotten as well. It’s much better to continue the feedback with “and here’s some great opportunities for development…”.

Emphasis and links added to Clint Cora's comment on the post "The Word is… ‘Unstucking’: How changing your words can get your brain moving again…".